“Must read” books about high conflict personalities



Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a "persuasive blamer": someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).
Author: Bill Eddy


Forensic Psychology Consultation in Child Custody Litigation: A Handbook for Work Product Review, Case Preparation, and Expert Testimony

The first comprehensive examination of the increasingly important role of forensic psychologists in consulting and expert witness testimony in child custody litigation, this book offers practical advice on understanding the critical psychological dynamics often found in child custody cases as well as guidance in using your own forensic consultant and testifying expert in complex litigation. Authors Philip M. Stahl and Robert A. Simon are experienced forensic psychology consultants with a combined 50 years of experience, making them uniquely positioned to explain the process and roles of reviewers, consultants, and expert witnesses in contested custody cases.
Author: Dr. Stahl



Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom's Battle

Tina will help you to feel less alone in your journey and will assure you that there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark things are right now. While Tina endured a tumultuous 6-year custody battle, she prevailed and today, her daughters have peace.
Author: Tina Swithin


High Conflict People in Legal Disputes

An easy-to-read and practical guide for legal professionals or anyone disputing with a high-conflict personality. Using compelling case examples and drawing from thirty years' experience in three professions, Bill Eddy explains the dynamics and strange logic of four types of personality disorders that appear to be increasing in legal disputes.
Author: Bill Eddy



I'm Done!: Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce 1st Edition

Take Control of Your High Conflict Divorce’ will give you everything you need to understand who you are co-parenting with, how to co-parent with them, and a little bit of your sanity back during this insane time.
Author: Andrea LaRochelle RFM




Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield

Education is power and Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield is your personal guide and resource for navigating through high-conflict divorce. Receive advice for every stage of the battle from leaving the Narcissist and choosing an attorney to tactical moves and courtroom preparation.
Author: Tina Swithin


The Future of Family Court: More Structure, More Skills, and Less Stress for All

Designed for judicial officers with an emphasis on applying lessons learned from the mental health field to the family court system, especially when working with high-conflict parents. Lawyer, therapist and trainer of judges, Bill Eddy, provides tips on what individual judges can do, rather than recommending sweeping changes in the court system or creating new players in the decision-making process.
Author: Bill Eddy


The High-Conflict Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Reclaim Your Life One Week At A Time

How can you keep it all together? High-conflict divorce experts Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle offer hope and a wealth of advice. The healthier you are as a parent, the better you’ll be able to help your children. Week by week, the authors guide you in taking care of yourself while navigating conflict. You’ll learn practical strategies for handling the most common co-parenting scenarios. And you’ll discover new ways to manage your own anger, worry, fear, stress, and grief.
Authors: Megan Hunter and Andrea LaRochelle RFM




Divorcing a Narcissist: Rebuilding After The Storm

In her new book, “Rebuilding After the Storm,” Tina Swithin takes her readers through the steps to rebuild their lives and thrive post-narcissist. Dr. Craig Malkin, psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School states, “If you need to start over, this is the woman you want holding your hand through the process.”
Author: Tina Swithin


Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

Should I Stay or Should I Go is a survival manual, a guidebook―and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.
Author: Ramani Durvasula PhD





BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns

BIFF stands for Brief, Informative, Friendly and Firm. A BIFF response is easy to remember, but hard to do. It takes practice! This little book gives over 20 examples of BIFF responses for all areas of life - plus additional tips to help you deal with high-conflict people anywhere.
Author: Bill Eddy